#RevOfKindness Challenge week 6 Kindness Without Expectation @NikiMeadowsWA

Week 6 is about Kindness Without Expectation

Niki’s Kindness Without Expectation Exercise-

Think of the times you expect something in return for the kindness you extend. It might be something small like hearing thank you or it might be hoping it’s reciprocated. How does it feel when you do something kind and don’t get what you expect in return? What do you receive by doing kind things or being kind even if you don’t expect it?

Take note of the times you’re kind without expectation this week. How did it feel? Did you end up getting something in return anyway?

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Here is Britain the week has been overshadowed by the terrible Grenfell tower-block fire. Examples of kindness without expectation can be seen from the people sending clothes and donations to those left with nothing after their homes and lives were destroyed.

In my own life, I went through my own exercise on this subject around a year ago. I felt trapped in a cycle of helping or volunteering, which I then resented when I didn’t get thanked or appreciated in the ways that I expected. But who was I to judge others reactions? Via some deep soul searching and questioning of my thoughts and feelings I decided that it would be healthier to me to continue to help others and volunteer, but to change my expectations. Now I work on telling myself that it doesn’t matter how others react, what matters more is that the universe will be grateful.

#RevOfKindness challenge week 5 Choosing Kindness @NikiMeadowsWA #SundayBlogShare

Week 5 is about choosing kindness.

Choosing Kindness Exercise-

Think of times you find it difficult to automatically respond with kindness. Is it at home? Is it at work? When you’re stressed? In certain situations? Pick one area you especially find yourself struggling to respond with kindness and work on being more kind in that particular instance this week. Note how you do each day.

If you prefer, take note of people in your life you find it difficult to extend kindness to. Find ways that you can be spontaneously kind to them in addition to how you can respond in kindness. If it’s not someone you’ll see this week, can you write them a letter, send them a thoughtful surprise, or just call to check on them?

As for being kind when it’s not hard, you can sign up over at Kindness Ninja to receive 100 ideas of random acts of kindness. This is a great way to incorporate kindness into your life on a regular basis. I personally enjoy doing this list with my kids.

If you can think of a different exercise to incorporate, feel free to do so. ❤

My own challenge

Well this has been my most challenging week.

There have been highs; for instance, when I met up with Julia Gibbs @ProofreadJulia and Alison Williams @AlisonW_Editor in London. I had been contacted about a book launch and invited Julia and Alison to join me. We had a lovely lunch in Spitalfields Market and then went on to the launch held by Triskele Books  at The English Restaurant.

Then there have been the lows, and I shall admit it has been difficult to show kindness. I have been grinding my teeth and not saying all that I may have wanted to. Instead, I headed off for a stomp around the woods to get my head back in a better place.

I’ve read a thought provoking book this week; Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher. Have you read it? There was a quote I thought suitable for this week’s challenge.

“No one knows for certain how much impact they have on the lives of other people”

Here is the book Description:

You can’t stop the future.
You can’t rewind the past.
The only way to learn the secret . . . is to press play.

Clay Jensen returns home from school to find a strange package with his name on it lying on his porch. Inside he discovers several cassette tapes recorded by Hannah Baker–his classmate and crush–who committed suicide two weeks earlier. Hannah’s voice tells him that there are thirteen reasons why she decided to end her life. Clay is one of them. If he listens, he’ll find out why.

Clay spends the night crisscrossing his town with Hannah as his guide. He becomes a firsthand witness to Hannah’s pain, and as he follows Hannah’s recorded words throughout his town, what he discovers changes his life forever.

Goodreads

#RevOfKindness Challenge Week 4 Kindness Role Model @NikiMeadowsWA #SundayBlogShare

Week 4 of the RevOfKindness Challenge is about Kindness Role Models

I chose to look at this from nature’s point of view. Whilst out walking I meditated on the humble bee. According to the bumblebee conservation organisation there are around 250 species in the UK: 24 special bumblebees, 225 solitary bees species and only 1 honeybee variety.

I thought about how a bee has the ability to fly between each flower and through an action, which has no malice, drinks nectar whilst providing a pollinating service. A bumblebee lives in a small colony and creates only enough honey-like substance for its own colony. A honeybee lives in a much larger colony and can produce more honey than the “hive” can eat.  Beekeepers usually manage honeybee hives and it can be an extremely peaceful and fulfilling interaction. In return for a safe home, from predators and the cold winter months, bees share their honey.

I know many people fear bees because of their sting and loud buzzing, but bees usually only sting as a last resort, or when threatened. A honeybee will die once it stings you, so it doesn’t go out intending to attack.

As I crossed a field and entered a wood, I heard buzzing which grew louder and bees darted this way and that. I stopped; on a warm June day, I suspected the bees were swarming, this is when part of the colony leave with a rival queen to set up a new colony. The bees are in search of a new home, I couldn’t see where the group were waiting, whilst the scouts went ahead, but when I passed by on my way back, all was quiet.

This week, a bee was an ideal kindness role model. As I thought about the bees, whilst I strolled across a buttercup covered knoll, my word for this came to me – RESPECT

I have always liked the folklore of telling honeybees important events in your life. It was thought that keeping the bees informed about a beekeepers family, kept the hive strong and the production of honey certain. So I shall leave you with a couple of poems.

Bees work for man,
and yet they never bruise

Their Master’s flower,
but leave it having done,

As fair as ever and as fit to use;
So both the flower doth stay
and honey run.

– George Herbert, The Church-Providence

How Doth the Little Busy Bee

Isaac Watts

How doth the little busy bee

Improve each shining hour,

And gather honey all the day

From every opening flower!

How skilfully she builds her cell!

How neat she spreads the wax!

And labors hard to store it well

With the sweet food she makes.

In works of labor or of skill,

I would be busy too;

For Satan finds some mischief still

For idle hands to do.

In books, or work, or healthful play,

Let my first years be passed,

That I may give for every day

Some good account at last.