Week 5 is about choosing kindness.
Choosing Kindness Exercise-
Think of times you find it difficult to automatically respond with kindness. Is it at home? Is it at work? When you’re stressed? In certain situations? Pick one area you especially find yourself struggling to respond with kindness and work on being more kind in that particular instance this week. Note how you do each day.
If you prefer, take note of people in your life you find it difficult to extend kindness to. Find ways that you can be spontaneously kind to them in addition to how you can respond in kindness. If it’s not someone you’ll see this week, can you write them a letter, send them a thoughtful surprise, or just call to check on them?
As for being kind when it’s not hard, you can sign up over at Kindness Ninja to receive 100 ideas of random acts of kindness. This is a great way to incorporate kindness into your life on a regular basis. I personally enjoy doing this list with my kids.
If you can think of a different exercise to incorporate, feel free to do so. ❤
My own challenge
Well this has been my most challenging week.
There have been highs; for instance, when I met up with Julia Gibbs @ProofreadJulia and Alison Williams @AlisonW_Editor in London. I had been contacted about a book launch and invited Julia and Alison to join me. We had a lovely lunch in Spitalfields Market and then went on to the launch held by Triskele Books at The English Restaurant.
Then there have been the lows, and I shall admit it has been difficult to show kindness. I have been grinding my teeth and not saying all that I may have wanted to. Instead, I headed off for a stomp around the woods to get my head back in a better place.
I’ve read a thought provoking book this week; Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher. Have you read it? There was a quote I thought suitable for this week’s challenge.
“No one knows for certain how much impact they have on the lives of other people”
Here is the book Description:
You can’t stop the future.
You can’t rewind the past.
The only way to learn the secret . . . is to press play.
Clay Jensen returns home from school to find a strange package with his name on it lying on his porch. Inside he discovers several cassette tapes recorded by Hannah Baker–his classmate and crush–who committed suicide two weeks earlier. Hannah’s voice tells him that there are thirteen reasons why she decided to end her life. Clay is one of them. If he listens, he’ll find out why.
Clay spends the night crisscrossing his town with Hannah as his guide. He becomes a firsthand witness to Hannah’s pain, and as he follows Hannah’s recorded words throughout his town, what he discovers changes his life forever.
This is something to think about. Just checked the Kindness Ninja – not sure it’s me to be so ‘out there’ but I do try to be kind anyway. After all what’s the point of being unkind; it benefits no one, especially one’s self. Although, saying that, if someone really upsets me I can always write them into a story and kill them off!
Good idea, sounds a satisfying answer.
This is a difficult one too. It is not always easy to try and change our frame of mind, although Judith is very right. The book sounds gripping too. Thanks, Rosie
Love this idea.
This can certainly be a tough week. Just being aware of the ways that kindness isn’t our default can be uncomfortable. With patience with ourselves and practice, we can get better at making kindness our default where it wasn’t before. I appreciate your honesty and transparency in your reflection. Wishing you a beautiful week ahead ❤
Choosing kindness is a conscious choice, and like all conscious choices, it can become habit–a good one we can cultivate. It’s not easy, though, especially when someone has wronged us. You did the right thing, Rosie. A walk is a healthy way to deal with frustrations. (“Thirteen Reasons Why” is a controversial series on Netflix.)
Thanks Linda, I have been reading some of the many reader’s thoughts about the book, just on Goodreads. Certainly a talking point.